How do you know she is The One ?

nrg500nrg500 Posts: 1,233
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I just want to know the opinions of married guys here with happy married life

Thanks :)

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  • riddlerriddler Posts: 1,018
    Picture yourself spending time with your other half 10-50 years from now. Do you see yourself still enjoying her company through thick and thin after all those years? If yes, I think it would be safe to assume that she's THE ONE. :)
  • rtravino29rtravino29 Posts: 1,549
    well, sort of magulo love life ko nun eh, di naman sa pagmamayabang eh kaliwa't kanan yung gf ko nun ( may times na pinag sabay ko apat na gf eh... yep..apat.. ganun ako kagago nun. )

    then I met her. Nung una parang wala lang, normal "fling" ika ko nga, di ako ganun ka seryoso sa kanya ( normally lahat ng naging gf ko may expiration, hanggang 6 months lang. 7 months may extension na).

    When we've been a couple, for the first 6 months, I gave her nothing but heart ache, andun yung tipong di ko sya kinikita nang ilang weeks, ultimo birthday niya di ko alam ( ganun ako ka gago nun). Pero di sya sumuko sakin, she's been with me through thick and thin ika nga. Gradually without me knowing, I straightened up, umiwas na ko sa pambababae, umiwas na ko sa barkada, inayos ko sarili ko, I'm basically doing now the things that I never knew na gagawin ko para sa isang babae.

    Dumating ang 8 months, kami pa rin. I was like "whooaa, iba na to". Sa loob loob ko, pag tumagal kami nang 1 year, sya na talaga ang para sakin. Soo... to cut the story short, we've been together now for almost 10 years ( 9 years kaming mag on and kaka kasal lang namin nung October last year).

    So to answer you're question about how to tell if she is the one? FATE. I strongly believe na kahit gaano ka kagago andun at andun ang isang babae na magbabago nang buhay mo, the one that will be the reason to be the better you. I didn't see it coming but I DEFINITELY FELT IT. It has been a rough road for her choosing me and staying by my side ( heck, kahit ako di makapaniwala na may nabulag ako). It has never been " I and Me, " It has been " we , she , us". Gaya nang sinabi ko dati, "Doing the things that you don't want to do and not doing the things you want to do for her".
  • BANEBANE Posts: 1,927
    sakin simple lang. college, sobrang nagandahan ako, type na type ko kasi ung chinita. so basically diniskartehan ko na agad, kaso ang problema ayaw nya sakin. ayaw din ng friends nya sakin so hopeless dba? HAHA labo eh no. pero di ako tumigil dun. i sticked for like couple of months. we are friends naman pero ayaw nya tlga ung ROMANTIC level. so basically one day, i got fed up tumigil na ko. haha nag karuon ako ng 3 GF's after her. take note hindi naging kame. meron mga para sayo, meron mga gusto mo mag stay pero di pwede. meron d tlga compatible. come last sa year college, may gf ako pero napasama ulit ako sa group nung tinigilan kong chinita kasi wala nga ko pagasa. pero deep inside mahal ko pa sya. d naman nawawala ung pag mamahal e. nag karuon ng mga tambay moments magkasama ulit kame, narikindle ung emotions ko for somereasons at nahulog na naman ako sakanya. takte. badtrip diba? p[pero this time mas ginalingan ko na. nakipagbreak ako sa gf ko
    (yeah i know asshole pero sinabi ko naman na di ko sya kayang lokohin at masasaktan ko lang sya. i dont cheat, ayun hagulgulan kame kasi mahal ko din sya lahat sila minahal ko ng totoo) and end result, naging kame ni chinita. presently married kame ni chinita 4 years now. 6 years in a relationship hehehe pero take not MAGKAIBA UNG THE ONE TRUE LOVE & THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY :) ung the one who got away ko ung brineakan ko.
  • OhsnapOhsnap Posts: 425
    2 beses pa lang ako nagkaron ng serious relationship. 1st it took 5 years, pero nakita ko na hindi kami compatible. Now i have a gf and 6 years na kame. After those years, lubusan ko siya nakilala and I think she's the one :)
  • asggeloasggelo Posts: 76
    isa lang naging gf ko... we spent 7 years together then we broke up nung Dec 7, 2013 kasi we have to get married that day :D hehe... 1 yr happily married with a 7 month old baby :D
  • jaykyungsoojaykyungsoo Posts: 6
    I've never been in a relationship, kahit once wala talaga. Mahiyain ako in person. Umaandar lang charisma ko sa mga club activies and school organizations and conferences pero when it comes to love, hanggang tingin at pangarap lang ako.

    Pero, di naman ako sad (may times na oo, di naman yan nawawala) pero sabi nga nila, grabeng magbigay ng payo ang mga single haha. Tuwing may problema sa pag ibig ang mga kaklase ko, ako ang tinatakbuhan nila. Yung isa kong natulungan, since 2nd year high school kami hanggang ngayon (ata) sila pa rin. 8 years na rin siguro yun. At marami pang experiences, haggang college.

    Nag tagal mga relasyon nila. Nakaktuwang isipin na even for once, natulungan ko sila. Kadalasan ang tanong nila sa akin is "Sya na ba kaya talaga?". Since bata pa kami nung natanong na nila yun sa akin, I always tell them na wag madaliin. Get to know him/her well at ofcourse, dapat andun lagi ang constant communication. Pag happy ka, i share mo. pag malungkot ka, i share mo. Pag worried ka, i share mo. Para sa akin, yun talaga ang isa sa mga foundations ng pag build ng trust.

    I don't know how to put this in words so pasensya if I'll be sending off an unusual tone sa sasabihin ko. Pero what i'd like to say is that, don't ever assume na "s/he's the one" pag fully infatuated ang feelings mo in a particular time. Para bang yung sabi nilang... "wag kang mag decide pag galit or super saya mo". Magandang simula yan ofcourse, kasi jan ka kukuha ng lakas. Usually kasi pag once focus ka na sa isang bagay, pag bumaliktad, sobrang sakit. Pero kasi dapat tingnan mo rin ang bawat possibilites na pwedeng mangyari sa decision and ideas mo towards her. Pero usually, when the feelings are mutual, walang problema. Kusa na lang lalabas yan kaya all you guys need to do it to take good care of it and let it grown within you two. A lot of times, totally random ang experiences mo with her na pwede mong masabi, "Yeah, she's the one". And I think mas maganda pag ma experience mo ang isang bagay rather than you decide it for youself first hand.

    Nakaktuwang basahin ang mga posts ng mga may asawa/gf na. Yung iba may anak na rin. I really wish and hope na magkaroon kayo ng more happy years together with your families and special someone. Ofcourse, ako andito pa rin. Alam kong darating ang araw na maeexperience ko yan. tiwala lang, puso puso kumbaga :D
  • Masala MakerMasala Maker Posts: 476
    ^ ilang taon ka na?
  • CoreCore Posts: 2,509
    Masala Maker wrote:
    ^ ilang taon ka na?

    ... v
    jaykyungsoo wrote:
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  • nrg500nrg500 Posts: 1,233
    Masala Maker wrote:
    ^ ilang taon ka na?

    You're back :)

    Kumusta ?
  • BANEBANE Posts: 1,927
    wtf @Core HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHHA
  • CoreCore Posts: 2,509
    Ghee wrote:
    wtf @Core HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHHA

    No offense trying to give but I'd just said 'exactly' what he said firsthand.
  • chikinitochikinito Posts: 461
    Most of the time, the reason kung bakit ako nakikipag-break sa mga naging girlfriend ko is that hindi ko makita ang future ko kasama sila.

    I'm getting married in March. I found that one person na nakikita kong kasa-kasama ko habambuhay.
  • rtravino29rtravino29 Posts: 1,549
    welcome back @chikinito !
  • chikinitochikinito Posts: 461
    Wahehehe. Thanks. Lurker mode muna. ^_^
  • Masala MakerMasala Maker Posts: 476
    Ayus lang naman men, nag lulurk lurk lang pag may time, uhhm. Still training pero intermittently lang mga 2 to 3 times a week dahil sa kabubohan ng schedule sa work. Pero ayun okay na. Positive na lagi yung moods. Looking forward sa end of my cut! 104kg na ako ngayon. Aiming for at least 90kg ulit.
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