How do you know she is The One ?
nrg500
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I just want to know the opinions of married guys here with happy married life
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then I met her. Nung una parang wala lang, normal "fling" ika ko nga, di ako ganun ka seryoso sa kanya ( normally lahat ng naging gf ko may expiration, hanggang 6 months lang. 7 months may extension na).
When we've been a couple, for the first 6 months, I gave her nothing but heart ache, andun yung tipong di ko sya kinikita nang ilang weeks, ultimo birthday niya di ko alam ( ganun ako ka gago nun). Pero di sya sumuko sakin, she's been with me through thick and thin ika nga. Gradually without me knowing, I straightened up, umiwas na ko sa pambababae, umiwas na ko sa barkada, inayos ko sarili ko, I'm basically doing now the things that I never knew na gagawin ko para sa isang babae.
Dumating ang 8 months, kami pa rin. I was like "whooaa, iba na to". Sa loob loob ko, pag tumagal kami nang 1 year, sya na talaga ang para sakin. Soo... to cut the story short, we've been together now for almost 10 years ( 9 years kaming mag on and kaka kasal lang namin nung October last year).
So to answer you're question about how to tell if she is the one? FATE. I strongly believe na kahit gaano ka kagago andun at andun ang isang babae na magbabago nang buhay mo, the one that will be the reason to be the better you. I didn't see it coming but I DEFINITELY FELT IT. It has been a rough road for her choosing me and staying by my side ( heck, kahit ako di makapaniwala na may nabulag ako). It has never been " I and Me, " It has been " we , she , us". Gaya nang sinabi ko dati, "Doing the things that you don't want to do and not doing the things you want to do for her".
(yeah i know asshole pero sinabi ko naman na di ko sya kayang lokohin at masasaktan ko lang sya. i dont cheat, ayun hagulgulan kame kasi mahal ko din sya lahat sila minahal ko ng totoo) and end result, naging kame ni chinita. presently married kame ni chinita 4 years now. 6 years in a relationship hehehe pero take not MAGKAIBA UNG THE ONE TRUE LOVE & THE ONE WHO GOT AWAY ung the one who got away ko ung brineakan ko.
Pero, di naman ako sad (may times na oo, di naman yan nawawala) pero sabi nga nila, grabeng magbigay ng payo ang mga single haha. Tuwing may problema sa pag ibig ang mga kaklase ko, ako ang tinatakbuhan nila. Yung isa kong natulungan, since 2nd year high school kami hanggang ngayon (ata) sila pa rin. 8 years na rin siguro yun. At marami pang experiences, haggang college.
Nag tagal mga relasyon nila. Nakaktuwang isipin na even for once, natulungan ko sila. Kadalasan ang tanong nila sa akin is "Sya na ba kaya talaga?". Since bata pa kami nung natanong na nila yun sa akin, I always tell them na wag madaliin. Get to know him/her well at ofcourse, dapat andun lagi ang constant communication. Pag happy ka, i share mo. pag malungkot ka, i share mo. Pag worried ka, i share mo. Para sa akin, yun talaga ang isa sa mga foundations ng pag build ng trust.
I don't know how to put this in words so pasensya if I'll be sending off an unusual tone sa sasabihin ko. Pero what i'd like to say is that, don't ever assume na "s/he's the one" pag fully infatuated ang feelings mo in a particular time. Para bang yung sabi nilang... "wag kang mag decide pag galit or super saya mo". Magandang simula yan ofcourse, kasi jan ka kukuha ng lakas. Usually kasi pag once focus ka na sa isang bagay, pag bumaliktad, sobrang sakit. Pero kasi dapat tingnan mo rin ang bawat possibilites na pwedeng mangyari sa decision and ideas mo towards her. Pero usually, when the feelings are mutual, walang problema. Kusa na lang lalabas yan kaya all you guys need to do it to take good care of it and let it grown within you two. A lot of times, totally random ang experiences mo with her na pwede mong masabi, "Yeah, she's the one". And I think mas maganda pag ma experience mo ang isang bagay rather than you decide it for youself first hand.
Nakaktuwang basahin ang mga posts ng mga may asawa/gf na. Yung iba may anak na rin. I really wish and hope na magkaroon kayo ng more happy years together with your families and special someone. Ofcourse, ako andito pa rin. Alam kong darating ang araw na maeexperience ko yan. tiwala lang, puso puso kumbaga
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No offense trying to give but I'd just said 'exactly' what he said firsthand.
I'm getting married in March. I found that one person na nakikita kong kasa-kasama ko habambuhay.